I’m absolutely useless with the conversation. You know the one where you tell the person you went on a few dates with that you’re not that into them? Yeah, that one.
You would think after having been rejected numerous times and of course, doing some rejecting of my own, that I would be comfortable with this. I should be a master at it but I’m not. It never feels good to hurt someone’s feelings, sure, but I have to care for my own.
It still bothers me that a person I went out with a few times might be so offended by my dwindling interest that they’ll insult me. Let’s face it, it’s a defense mechanism and I’ve seen it used plenty of times. He thought I was beautiful and sweet but once I said, “No, thanks”, I was suddenly a fat bitch. Nice. I’d rather not go through that.
It might go an entirely different way. The person might be deeply hurt. Tears? Really? We only went on two dates, you’ve got to be kidding me. It can happen. Sometimes the person you’re slightly interested in might not be all that interesting after all. Then what? Do you keep going out on dates with this person?
I’d say no. If you don’t like someone, cut it off. It’s harsh but it’s true. If you don’t have any romantic feelings for them, you’re wasting your time and their time as well. If that first kiss was awful and it’s not something you can get over, then cut it off. If you don’t think your personalities will mix well, then don’t bother. If you just don’t feel that connection, then move along.
This probably makes me less of a nice person. But the conversation is just something I am not comfortable having just yet.
I’ve learned the hard way myself. If a guy doesn’t call, he’s not into you. If he isn’t responding to calls or texts, he’s not into you. This has happened to me and I definitely got the idea. I didn’t need them to tell me they didn’t like me, their actions said it all.
It doesn’t stop me from sleeping but it isn’t something I’m proud of. To the boys I’ve stopped talking to, I’m sorry. I disappeared and stopped responding for a reason and trust me, you’re better off. We both are.